I’m sure that the title of this post has you skeptical. And it should, because the reality is that there’s no way to get rid of fear forever.
I had two conversations in 24 hours and read a section in book on fear, and it made me think about the fact that, the one thing that holds people back more than anything else is fear.
We all have a monster under the bed that won’t let us fully rest and relax into the life we want. It is a natural, biologically wired response to perceived threats. So whether it’s heights, spiders, rejection, loneliness, failure, success, clowns, or anything else, the pit of your stomach, palm-sweating, heart-pounding quivers aren’t going to go away with a three-step formula or some magic words.
Now, back those two conversations I had. One was talking about how fear was holding her back from pursuing certain things, because she didn’t think that she could do both of the things she feels passionate about. The other said that fear of ending up in a bad spot (unhealthy, victim of a heart attack, unfulfilled in life) was motivating her to make some changes for the better.
Fear, like a screwdriver, is a tool. A screwdriver can be used to poke someone in the eye (not a recommended or endorsed use by this company), or it can tighten the screw on a swing set to make it more secure for children to use. In the same way, fear can show us what we don’t want and push us away from an unhappy ending, or it can inhibit our imagination, turning us off from doing things that do not fit conventional wisdom.
The choice is yours. As I read in the book I mentioned, The Introvert Entrepreneur, fear is ultimately an instinct trying to protect us. It is important to listen to and acknowledge the fear, but ultimately, fear cannot be the one steering the ship. Once you hear and acknowledge it, take a deep breath and push forward in the direction of positive progress.
“When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” –Audre Lorde